Why do we think we need the struggle of Co-Dependence to choose a partner? Why do we not understand that the initial freedom of Co-Dependence becomes a prison? Can we creatively affirm our nature so that we are not seduced into unconscious compromise? The answer is to heal our Co-Dependence!
Unconscious relationships promise freedom but deliver pain. When we negotiate a role-based relationship it is usually is how we idealize ourselves. It is about what we â€˜wantâ€™ to be and how we have not been seen in the past. This has more to do with how we have been discounted or denied than how we truthfully are. The irony is that these false assumptions become the structure of the relationship that we then resent. Paradoxically, attempts to free ourselves end up binding us more tightly. This becomes particularly evident when we expect our partners to save us from ourselves. Co-Dependence is where we gradually smother our self and our partner in a mutual death pact.â€‹
Common Neutral Ground supports us in creating clear boundaries so we are encouraged to express our Truth. It is Higher Alignmentâ€™s integrating framework for determining how best to connect with others. It is based upon honoring our own creativity and the creativity of our partners.
The Common Neutral Ground Introduces Sensations, Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts so we can appreciate how, if not balanced, we can provoke reactions in others. It also reflects that some individuals are not prepared to respond on all levels. Rather than making them wrong, we try to hold space for their contributions (or lack) to emerge. Being forgiving and open to how others define themselves is critical to getting into flow with them. Common Neutral Ground is an energetic process that maximizes our ability to connect. Over time, people trust us when we do a CNG, and will share more with us when we do so. This usually leads to greater creativity and productivity.
Why do we end up feeling locked into our relationships? Why do we feel compelled to stay in relationships that are not working? Why do we imagine having a relationship without consequences or confinement? It is because we do not want to be responsible for our relationship choices.â€‹
When we meet someone, we may feel seen (accepted) or not seen (rejected), which leads us to either hold back, or we try to engage the person (to change their mind about us). We may also begin to compare and evaluate how their weaknesses relate to our Strengths. This allows us to say something that can add value to them. Ultimately, we want them to need us more than we need them, so we have more choices (than them). Unfortunately, when we get caught up in a Co-Dependent pattern, our partnerâ€™s perception of us can change if we say the wrong thing at the wrong time. The game becomes how we can constantly get our partner to see our value so they do not look to someone else to take care of them. This is Co-Dependent thinking at its best! â€‹
Experience and celebrate Compassionate healing! Let go of the need for others to hear and get you, realizing they may not have the capacity to meet you. Let yourself radiate and attract people who will respond to you. This is the purpose of this Playshop!
Consider what it could mean to have others who are willing to embrace you in the middle ground. Consider how much you toughen yourself up just to survive your daily circumstances. What if you could find a place where the things that matter to you matter to others? When Compassionates support other Compassionates, things change. Old conflicts and imprinting surface; we learn how to love ourselves more fully. Other Compassionates remind us what we need to do to care for ourselves. This helps us to not give ourselves away, particularly when we have difficulty recovering who we are. This course affirms our Creative Nature and encourages us, through various processes, to explore our natural capabilities.
Storytellers amplify and connect groups by their presence. Their quality of openness lightens up groups so they respond with humor and flexibility. They make themselves relevant by bringing together the needs, Motives, Skills and Attractions of the members of their groups. When they accept this, Storyteller insights serve the larger common good.
This Intro to Storyteller Actualization explains how Storytellers own their Pleasure, Creative Power and Passion. It accelerates our development because we can consciously participate in our own evolution. We will explore the importance of knowing ourselves (as Storytellers) and what this means to our Authentic Life Expression.
This playshop for primary Visionaries is a process-driven experiential event that stimulates our Growth aspirations. During this day-long event we shift from seeing ourselves as a problem or set of circumstances into opportunities for engagement. The purpose of this class is to link us into our Creative Source so we are empowered to move forward with greater ease.
This Playshop distinguishes where we are actualized and where we are not! It awakens us to our deeper creative voice and encourages us to affirm our Creative Being. It is a soft way to explore our nature and receive feedback about our Visionary nature.
Every Creative Expression has unique gifts that must be accepted for us to fully express ourselves. The more we take on parental Imprinting, Pretenses and Defenses, the less prepared we are to share our gifts. This Free Intro class on Actualization is a generalized approach to learning how to see and accept ourselves in our Creative greatness.
The class lays out the case for how each creative expression has its own theme, Motive and Skills that are manifested on seven levels. This lets us validate where we are in our own development so we can focus on what makes a difference in where we are. There are seven distinct steps to Actualizing our Primary Creative Expression. Our Playshops introduce the particular details for each Creative Expression and will be offered in the schedule below. This Introductory conversation will highlight, through two process experiences, how actualization is fundamental to our development.
Find out what you can do to neutralize the obstacles to Life, Light and Love. Practice how to establish better energetic boundaries. Join our Free Intro night discussion on the energetics of Co-Creative relationships using a Common Neutral Ground.
This free Intro Class presents key concepts and demonstrates Common Neutral Ground techniques. You will experience the difference between protecting and expressing yourself. The focus will be on teaching how to hold Space for ourselves and our partners. Experience the seven steps to creating a Common Neutral Ground. When we learn to cleanly provide the appropriate degree of inner and outer Energy, Time and Space, it allows us to operate with others in a creative manner.
Attachments to Attractions can keep us from growth, expressing our power and exploring new domains. The lack of understanding of our creative possibilities can be caused by fears of certain Attractions. Experiencing higher Attractions is not something many of us are comfortable about.
Find out what you have been missing! We identify attractions on Masculine, Feminine and Combined levels. Masculine Attractions are Smart, Strength, Personality Self Rejection and Aliveness. The Feminine Attractions are Sexy, Innocent, Acceptance and Wisdom. The Combined Attractions are Reliable, Personal Autonomy, Personal Intimacy and Awareness. When we are pre-conscious, we are attracted to individuals who counterbalance our strengths with their weaknesses. This leads into relationships that are co-dependent and complementary. Until we are willing to choose our lessons by changing our Attractions, we do not easily grow. The Attractions we choose reflect lessons we are learning. Our lack of understanding creative possibilities may be caused by fears of certain Attractions. Attractions help us choose our lessons rather than being at the effect of them.