Find out how you define yourself in terms of your Authentic Life Expression. Are you an Actor, Performer, Dreamer or Co-Creator? Can you identify which pattern you follow? Find out more about Actors, Performers, Dreamers, and Co-Creators here. We will describe how Pleasure, Power and Passion lead us to better choices.
Does the job or contribution you now make provide an experience of Pleasure, Power and Passion? Which of these is missing or overshadowed by the others? Our capacity to appreciate Beauty and be present in our body honors our Intent, so when we do our job it always is a source of pleasure. If we cannot feel Pleasure in our work, it is likely not the right job! There are two forms of Power: Power over people, or Power with people. The first is a defensive response, where we use fear to get others to respond to us. If we are in a job using this power, it is probably not the best job for us. We get anchored into defensive ways of being (where we have to perform), which creates stress and tension between others and us. If we feel powerful (with others), this is Co-Creative Power, which indicates it is probably a good job for us. Passion begins with us and gets reflected in the enthusiasm of others. If this is occurring, it is a good job (for us)! If we deny Passion within ourselves, we end up fighting those who are committed to the mission. If we deny the enthusiasm others exhibit, it is because we have not yet accepted that we can make a difference by fulfilling the mission. â€‹
How do we know when we are making progress in our Authentic Life Work? What are the indicators we are experiencing greater success and fulfillment? What is the balance we are seeking so our life experience is appreciated for what it is? Our ALE class provides answers and practical solutions for selecting our best contribution.â€‹
For those seeking a comprehensive solution to what most fulfills them, look no further! This course begins with an education about our personal gifts. It offers a map that not only affirms who we are creatively, but provides a targeted assessment of the obstacles we encounter and need to overcome. During this class, we learn how to become more resourceful and how to identify our natural constituents. This supports us in making the transition from how we defined ourselves in the past to choosing new pathways that strengthen us, because we have a natural creative capacity. We talk about how to define our Mission, Vision and Values, so we can live our purpose. We also help to identify the support people we already have and those we need to add to create balance in our exchanges with others. The key quality we want to bring out is how we customize our capacity to serve our Constituents.â€‹
Motives determine relationship effectiveness and productivity. The more we are aligned in ourselves and congruent with our partners, the easier our relationships will be. Discover how Motive differences either support or sabotage our relationships. To find out more about Motives click here.
Motives change based on the intentions of others or how we treat them. Noticing these shifts is difficult to pin down when you are not aware about Motives. In this course we become conscious about Motives and their impact. Unconscious Motives can kill a good relationship when others realize their needs will always come last to a person using lower Motives. We learn to use this technology to talk about Motive problems when Attitudes do not line up. Any time a partner changes a Motive or demands something without reciprocity, it can be a warning that problems are on the horizon. Some individuals change their Motives on a regular basis in order to keep their partners off balance. Motives, revealing our underlying conditioning, let us know when Co-Dependence and Defensiveness reach a critical point. When we understand our Motives and the Motives of others, we can make pre-emptive adjustments to avoid dangerous waters. We are also able to use the vocabulary of Motives to work out solutions.â€‹
Motives mostly trap us in past activities. Re-directing our attention toward Motives expands Aliveness by empowering Life choices that build better relationships. Fears and Frustrated Desires distort our actions and minimize our Motives. Let us open creative possibilities so we can fully express ourselves.
Motives provide a channel to act in alignment with or oppose others. When we act in alignment, we consciously trust our relationship, which minimizes the activation of Fears, Desires, Doubts and Inertia. Our relationships feel easier and we flow together. When we oppose others we become insecure, stubborn and irritated by the actions of our partners. Many individuals do not realize they can discuss their Motive patterns with their partners. When we do, it offers a way to minimize some of the defensive differences that can upset a relationship. Motives are also helpful in revealing patterns of Co-Dependence, because many of us expect our partners to counterbalance us. A great example of this is when we create arguments because we are uncomfortable affirming our partners or ourselves. For a full introductory discussion about Motives, click here.