The Source Of Needing To Be Important
Idealization is the glorification of the Personality Defense Style. Idealization helps us to confront the limitations of our Defenses and points out what is being... Read More
The Source Of Needing To Be Right
Subjectification is the need to destroy the truth of others for fear it will somehow compromise or deny our own truth. It operates from the premise that what I kn... Read More
The Source Of Sexual Harassment
The headlines are full of individuals who misconstrue sexual interest with power. Using positions of authority, they assume they have the right to specialized atten... Read More
How We Act Out Our Defenses
Defenses are structures of belief that preclude open thinking. Over time they become habits that alter what we sense, feel, emote or imagine. In Defensive healing ... Read More
Are we willing to sacrifice our full Creative Expression?
Active Pretenses are like bicycle training wheels, which keep us from being able to turn sharply or go fast. The purpose of Pretenses is... Read More
Dissonance or Congruence? Pretenses lead to Dissonance.
When we are willing to confront our Pretenses it is because we see how they limit our interactions. Pretenses are straight jackets that inhibit ou... Read More
A pretense is an unconscious activity that is a substitute for authentic Autonomy or Intimacy. Expectations and Romantic Mythology reflect a compromise in our Autonomy skills because we let... Read More
We adopt Pretenses to be liked. We want others to want to be with us. We falsely believe we can be whatever we need to be to get the attraction of the right partners. Being seen inaccurately... Read More