Are we willing to sacrifice our full Creative Expression?
Active Pretenses are like bicycle training wheels, which keep us from being able to turn sharply or go fast. The purpose of Pretenses is... Read More
Dissonance or Congruence? Pretenses lead to Dissonance.
When we are willing to confront our Pretenses it is because we see how they limit our interactions. Pretenses are straight jackets that inhibit ou... Read More
A pretense is an unconscious activity that is a substitute for authentic Autonomy or Intimacy. Expectations and Romantic Mythology reflect a compromise in our Autonomy skills because we let... Read More
We adopt Pretenses to be liked. We want others to want to be with us. We falsely believe we can be whatever we need to be to get the attraction of the right partners. Being seen inaccurately... Read More
Use the questions below to identify which Pretenses you may be implementing. This is meant as a series of suggestions that can be affirmed by reading the posts on each of the Pretenses.
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With this strategy we only link up with those who can be manipulated (to protect ourselves). While many seducers tell themselves they are manipulating others for their own good, this is seldom the case. Wh... Read More