Our Parents Represent Our Foundation
Parents serve as a base or starting place in relationships and Life Work. All the characteristics of our parents help define who we are and establish the essential lessons and struggles we will confront in our lives. Whatever the degree of consciousness, our parents serve as worst-case examples of what happens when we do not individuate, take risks and grow in life. Wherever we compromise ourselves by adopting our parentâ€™s patterns, becomes an irritation and energetic abyss (for us). The questions are, why would we choose our parents and what does being with these parents motivate us to do with our lives? We choose our parents to create a pathway to a certain Authentic Life Expression. Part of this process is to assist us in owning our lessons so we learn to make our own choices. Unfortunately, when we do not learn from our parents, we become like them.
Metaphorically, fathers represent our connection to our Authentic Life Expression (ALE). The better our relationships with them, the more likely we are willing to explore what fulfills us. By making successive contributions, we fine-tune what we are good at. Fathers represent our capacity to show up in groups. They instill and support striving and the desire to grow. Many fathers provide a set of values which are examined by their children and become the basis for further development. Children can either accept or reject the way money is managed during their lives based on experiences with their fatherâ€™s financial pattern. Socio-economic differences play into how we choose to serve our constituents. Since we look to our fathers for validation about our work choices, it is easy to see where their influence makes a significant impact (positive or negative).
Mothers represent our capacity to choose quality relationships. When we have a relationship with our mother without enmeshment, disaffiliation or disassociation, it encourages us to define our connections in a positive way. We learn to expand our choices and accept ourselves and our partners as they are. When the relationship with our mother is poor, we are mostly defined by Co-Dependent possibilities that are either parental substitutes or have polar opposite defenses. This greatly reduces Growth, Autonomy, Intimacy and Creativity. Mothers teach us how to establish boundaries or get lost in them. Our whole sense of possibility arises from having open and abundant connections with our mothers. Mothers also teach us about adaptability. We either adjust or compromise ourselves to escape, or we learn to challenge and change what does not work.
Upon examination of our parental relationships, we begin to see limitations and lessons our parents projected on us. While they were motivated to help us, sometimes they were victims of their own parents, where they took on parental lessons without being able to separate themselves from those lessons. It is time now to let go of all guilt, blame and shame when it comes to our parents, as they have been incredibly helpful in launching us to accomplish the things we needed to do. If we, in fact, do choose our parents, can we appreciate how their interactions with us have set us on the course we are following? Upon reflection, it becomes easier to see that without them, it would have been impossible to evolve into our current contributions and relationships. Even the difficulties we encounter teach us how to evolve, transmute and transform our circumstances.
Our parents either contributed to a safe and secure environment for us or did not. Our response to this has made us who we are. Our parents were either in a great relationship or not. Our response to this is the partners we choose. Now that we are taking responsibility for the life we want, we need to see how all the positive and negative experiences were necessary to get us to where we are, here and now. This requires forgiving ourselves for how challenging we have made this process. It means recognizing that our parents did the best they could, based on what they were given. We need to see that we can stand on their shoulders and deal with problems on our own terms. Until we make this transition, our energy is trapped in the past.
The purpose of this course is to take responsibility for our choices. It is about creating meaning by recognizing the inherent story of our life and how we have responded based on our own Creative Nature. Instead of believing we are victims of our parents or circumstances, let us re-write the script as the heroes or heroines we are. Even if our parents and families do not understand us, we can declare our own direction and purpose. Doing so invites support to our lives. This shows up as constituents who want to purchase our products and services. It also shows up as partners who want to Co-Create and grow with us. By creating meaning from our past, it gives meaning to our future. We need to see how our lives will unfold so we are informed and able to engage opportunities.
Why Choose Your Parents?
Class Schedule: Sunday, March 25th,
Class Times (Webinar Format):
10:30am-5pm MST (with lunch break, BYO)
Price: $117 in person or $97 online, includes presentation files with class audios to all participants.
For More Information & Registration:
Call Sandra Jaquith at (303) 832-3707