Objectification, Subjectification, Idealization
Distortions emphasize our Fears, repress our Desires and keep us in emotional holding patterns. We cannot perceive our complete reality due to the Attachments, Positions and Projections that consume our Life, Light and Love energies. As we identify with defensive distortions we commonly believe everyone is against us. This separation creates defensive boundaries where we react when others generalize their experience at us. These misperceptions produce inappropriate attacks, which stimulate counterattacks. The hidden cost of our defenses becomes clear when actions taken lead to experiences of guilt, shame and blame because we mistreated others. There are three patterns of mistreatment: Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization. Objectification fixates on outer Beauty at the cost of inner Beauty, discounting wholeness and reducing our experience into gender-driven power grabs. Subjectification focuses on knowledge and the application of fear to create false perceptions of power that minimize Wisdom and common sense. The goal is to push our beliefs upon others. Idealization forces a definition of what is good upon others to gain their acceptance while undermining natural passion and heart connections among participants. We stay trapped in Idealization as long as we accept/promote inequality between individuals.
Objectification is an over-identification with physical form that results in making us all objects to be manipulated. The issue is one of appropriate action, which is repressed when we create fantasies about others. These fantasies motivate us to address our addictions and keep us from balanced activity. A primary obstacle to knowing and acting in alignment with our truth is when we seek shortcuts where we use fear (in others) to get what we want. By accentuating someoneâ€™s fears we can get them to do what we want. The more we objectify ourselves, the more we repress who we are and build a sense of false power by seeking to possess others. This causes and reinforces suffering, sorrow and grief that cannot be owned or seen (by us). The way we avoid this pain is to use Excitement as an escape, which traps us further in our fantasies. We do not understand that the more we seek to escape through Objectification, the more it pulls us down.
Subjectification is where we define ourselves in terms of a limited group of ideas that discourage deeper self-knowing. The more we judge our ideas, the more we use them to protect our fragile self-understanding. We also get caught up in perceptions others have about us. When this occurs, we work to pre-emptively position ourselves in terms of possessing the â€˜right ideasâ€™. The right ideas are those that provide leverage over the way others think. These emotional or intellectual perceptions anchor our stories, make real our beliefs and provide the rationalization for what we need from others. We falsely believe our stories are more important than the experience others have around us. Many times it is our apparent certainty about our reality that most influences how others react to us.
These inner stories provide a means to dominate a conversation, or at least negotiate it from a position of strength or innocence (the alternate, or polar opposite, of strength). The more we can dominate the stories of those around us, the more options we perceive we have over them. In this way, Subjectification reinforces and amplifies our competition to be perceived as better than others. In this race for the bottom we lose the ability to think for ourselves. We also do not realize that our positioning repulses others from us, making it hard to authentically connect or communicate with them. We need to break the preconceptions of who we are to discover our true knowing.
Idealization keeps us caught in projections of how we or others â€˜should beâ€™ to be good. Without realizing it, we project our lessons into othersâ€™ lives, falsely believing that our responses should be theirs. We feel safe and secure when someone demonstrates common interests or values. We feel grateful when others seek to enhance our self-importance by claiming to make us part of their tremendous mission. When we idealize something we further compound our confusion by requiring that others agree with what we think is good, even if we cannot live up to that possibility ourselves. We want people around us to be better than we are, but then we make them wrong if they are unable to live up to our ideal (expectations).
We see major examples of this in expanding the image of celebrities, only to later tear them down. We build up certain individuals or partners, then feel disappointed when they do not live up to our standards. What we are not seeing is that every individual is the best expert on their own life and are the only ones who should determine their path. Part of our ignorance is the more we get distracted by othersâ€™ issues, the more anxiety we take on in ourselves. This is what happens when we compare ourselves to others. Anxiety reinforces the belief that we should care for them before ourselves, which amplifies the distortions we see. Idealization is the result of being out of balance between our Feelings and Emotions, which also reflects imbalances between body and mind.
Each defensive Distortion is a pattern of interaction where we get distracted from making our contribution to life. They consume our energy by minimizing our Life Expression, causing confusion or making us doubt our inner Light; sabotaging our ability to Love. Since most of us grow up in these patterns we have little else to compare them to. Take the time now to identify and clear our the patterns that lock you into your past history. Join us for a team-building process that enlivens the power of your creativity. The ADH class will be conducted in four Saturday sessions (with Sunday alternatives).
Advanced Defensive Healing
Class 1 Confronting our Defense
Class 2 Healing Objectification
Class 3 Neutralizing Subjectification
Class 4 Eliminating Idealization
Free Intro event: Saturday, January 20th, 10:30 to 12:30, CMT
Class Schedule: 4 Saturdays, January 27th, February 17 th, March 1o th and March 31st . Alternative Sunday groups on February 4 th , February 25th, March 18th, and April 8 th
Time: 10:30 am to 1:00 pm for presentation. Saturdays 1pm to 9pm. Sunday Groups are noon until 8:00 pm CST
Price: $297 (No Webinar offering due to intensive 4 person group processes)
Information & Registration: Larry Byram (303) 926-9339