Confronting Our Complete Truth
Defenses reflect emotional and intellectual positions that separate us from others. They are reflections of an egoic identity that differentiates us from others. The more we assume positions about who we need to be to succeed, the more we develop a concept of who we are that is out of sync with our Authentic Nature. We call this being identified with our Defense Style. A Defense is an assumed perception of power that allows us to justify our choices in the name of personal safety and security. As our experiences become framed by what others think about us, it distorts our Creative Self. Instead, we identify with our personality self, and, because the personality is based on partial perceptions of reality, it is always incomplete, weak or off-balance. This creates fears that attract attack. It also pulls in individuals with opposite Defense styles, which promotes Co-Dependence.
A Defense originates as a way to maintain our perceptions (beliefs) in the face of adversity. It promotes competition, either by denying aggression exists (Distant defense) avoiding aggression (Disarming defense) or using aggression as a tool to intimidate (Dynamic defense). By identifying with only our thoughts and beliefs we lose sight of the effect they have on others. We also become oblivious to the perceptions others hold about us. We hold onto and think that our defensive self-perceptions insulate us from the impact of our negative behaviors. Instead, we become fixated on proving our superior perspective, which keeps us from accepting any larger truth.
The paradox is that the more we judge others, the more we open ourselves up to be judged. This means while we deny the consequences of our own perspectives, we end up unconsciously accepting them without review. Another part of this paradox is in making a judgment, we reinforce it as being real. When we believe our defensive thoughts they take on a physical reality within our being. We become lost when we use differences to affirm our nature and cannot see any unifying transpersonal possibilities.
We develop greater understanding and appreciation of our Defenses when we begin with the premise that we are each both masculine and feminine. There are three basic Defenses (Distant, Dynamic and Disarming) that form the basis for nine defensive patterns. Distant Defense Style individuals are working towards embodying either masculine or feminine expressions and get caught up in masculine (provider) or feminine (nurturer) role-playing positions. Dynamic Defense Style individuals embody the masculine and deny their feminine. Disarming Defense Style individuals embody the feminine and deny their masculine. Disnamic Defense Style individuals are a combination of Disarming and Dynamic, and choose their pattern based upon the stances of others around them. Defenses can be neutralized when we embody our masculine and feminine simultaneously, which is called being Pioneering. It is important to remember that defenses are based on an incomplete perception of our Truth. Instead of arguing for our limitations, let us honor our ability to grow and expand in Wisdom so Defenses become a thing of the past.
When we choose a romantic partner with the same defense, we end up having to confront our own inner Truth and learn how it is different from our defensive perceptions and distortions. It is important to recognize that any defense minimizes our ability to love our Creative Nature. Our Defense encourages us to seek partners who have different creative expressions, as well as defenses, because these partners will not confront our lack of power or passion. Defenses allow us to believe that our half-truths are actually whole Truths. With opposite defense individuals our defensive perceptions get re-enforced. Healing our Defense means embracing the wholeness of who we are and not just reflecting the distorted parts.
Embracing wholeness allows our Emotions and Thoughts to work together, creating the possibility of balanced knowing and true authentic power. When we are able to stand in our Truth and do not define ourselves in terms of others, we will have individuated sufficiently to know and share our Truth without compromise. Most importantly, healing our Defense permits us to discover harmless ways to share our Truth without creating reactions in others. This class uses discussion, processes and self-reflection to break out of the preconceived ways we protect ourselves. Let us look at our Defensive patterns and identify the lessons they teach so we can create new possibilities for living.
This course introduces the patterns and practices of individual Defense Types. It comes with a Defensive Healing book (in PDF format) that offers in-depth examinations about why different Defense Styles do what they do. The objective is three-fold: 1) to see and accept our complete Defense pattern; 2) to familiarize ourselves with the natural responses of other Defense styles; and 3) to understand, heal and forgive ourselves enough so we can step beyond self-limiting patterns. Defensive Healing is a foundational course and is a prerequisite for the Advanced Defensive Healing class. Everyone is invited to participate in our Intro Event.
FREE INTRO! â€śHealing Defensive Preconceptions"
Defensive Healing (DH) Class will include the following:
Class 1 What Are Defenses
Class 2 Acknowledging Fears and Desires
Class 3 Building a Common Neutral Ground
Class 4 The Range Of Defenses
Class 5 Hurt Comes From Creative Denial
Class 6 Defensive Patterns Cause Separativeness
Class 7 Defensive Ownership
Class 8 Defensive Compromise
Class 9 Being Present
Class 10 Energetic Rebalancing
Class 11 Defensive Distortions
Class 12 Being Pioneers
Free Intro Night: Thursday, January 11th , 6 to 9 pm CST
Class Schedule: 12 Thursdays, January 18th through April 5th
Course Time: 6-9:00 pm CST
Price: $397 in class, in person, $297 online webinar
Information & Registration: Larry Byram (303) 926-9339