Uplifting, Expanding And Building Common Motives
Motives are what we do with others to anchor and expand our common reality. The more Life energy we have, the stronger our Motive expression. The more we deny Motives, the more we are caught in less energetic, conditioned reactions. Each Motive either amplifies or sabotages the unity of our connection. Most individuals choose partners who reflect different Motives, which reduces their ability to work together. Since each Motive is an energetic resource that amplifies particular activities, it is easy to become overly identified with Motives that enhance separativeness. This creates friction and inertia and minimizes trustworthiness with our partners. The way to improve our relationships is to use intuitive Motives, such as Universal Dominion, Conscious Participation and Mutual Accomplishment to bring together our experiences.
When caught in Instinctive Motives, we naturally contract and end up over-acting to compensate for our Fears. Greed, Lust and Arrogance are experiences where we act out our Fears, not realizing they minimize our connection with others. Ironically, Instinctive Motives assume we have lost something we are attempting to recover. This refers to having a connection to ourselves where we are not driven to the extremes of survival behaviors. We seek the apparent safety of things, people and thoughts. By being overly attached, we impose a fixed set of activities upon our partners that they need to agree with or conform to. The structure of these interactions is not up for debate, because they are fixed in our unconscious nature. We uplift Instinctive Motives by confronting our Fears and affirming our ability to respond to circumstances in the moment.
When we get caught in Intellectual Motives, we naturally focus on our defensive identity. The key is to present a coherent position about whom we are that others cannot successfully attack or assail. Personal Dominion, Personal Achievement and Self Centered Activity are reflections of the self-described strengths we believe others will respond to. Personal Dominion is a sense of integrity and a desire for others to see us as entitled so we will be treated with respect. Personal Achievement is a badge of honor that says we have persevered in the face of adversity and deserve the esteem of others. Self Centered Activity is the demand that others should let us to do what we want when we have time off. On the intellectual level, time is a competitive resource where we assert our dominance by making others respond to us. We expand our selection of Motives (or personalize them) by first becoming aware of the differences between Masculine and Feminine Motives. This allows us to deepen into our connections with others by operating in congruence with our gender identity.
When we are caught in Idealized Motives, we naturally focus on our ideals or principles, seeking to establish how they made us the person we are today. The key is to present an aspirational projection or goal so others will buy into our stories. We seek people who will commit to us and support us, come what may. We attempt to avoid doubt, and in so doing, attract it to us. Idealized Trust, Unity and Co-Creativity offer three ways to establish this connection; 1) by sharing trust; 2) establishing common goals or intellectual approach; and 3) determining how we can better interact with others. Idealized Trust encourages us trust those who have little or no track record of success. Idealized Unity suggests we should follow others, because they have great ideas, even though we doubt their abilities. Idealized Co-Creativity hopes that partners have skills and talents they may not actually have. While we each own our own space at this level, when we create a Common Neutral Ground (which is a separate space for the relationship), it allows us to create a more conscious connection. We consciously learn how to engage and unify with partners by doing the same Motives together. This increases our capacity over time to operate synergistically by building bridges using common motives.
Intuitive Motives enhance our ability to operate in our masculine and feminine simultaneously. While Concentration is the primary tool of masculine oriented individuals, when it is combined with the Inclusiveness of the feminine, we achieve greater balance. Learning how to create connections with partners without operating from pre-set agendas encourages us to get better at Co-Creating these options with others. This class is organized in terms of these three components. This is when we learn how to be synergistic and selective about what we invest in, how we monitor our progress and where we make ongoing investments. Ultimately, we learn to do what is necessary to maximize our ability to contribute, while minimizing the effort this takes.
The class is divided into three sections: Masculine (Concentration), Feminine (Inclusiveness) and Unified Motives (Synergistic actions). Each contains a particular lesson and skill. On Saturday we will begin with a section presentation and class where we introduce the concepts. We will select teams of four individuals with the same Primary Expression to reduce conflicts and maximize productivity. Each team will use clay to model a group of Motives and their relationship to each other. We will provide snacks, but teams will be in charge of their own time and may take breaks or go out to lunch anytime they wish. Sunday participants who can come for the Saturday class presentation, will (if they cannot attend) need to review the video, audio, and/or pdf presentation on their own time before the team projects begin. All participants will receive links to the training materials.
Clarifying Our Path Of Action â€”
Uplifting, Expanding and Building Common Motives
Weekend Class 1 Masculine Concentration (One Full Saturday, Or reveiw the class by webinar and begin at noon on Sunday)
Weekend Class 2 Feminine Inclusiveness (One Full Saturday, Or reveiw the class by webinar and begin at noon on Sunday)
Weekend Class 3 Choosing How To Connect (One Full Saturday, Or reveiw the class by webinar and begin at noon on Sunday)
Free Intro: Saturday, September 9th, 2017; 1:30pm MT
Class dates: Three Saturdays, Sept. 23rd, Oct. 21st, Nov. 11th 2017 No webinar participants outside of Boulder, CO (Due to clay modeling requirements.)
With alternate Sunday Project teams on Oct. 1st, Oct. 29th, Nov. 12th 2017 at 12:00 noon until team completes or 9:00 pm MST â€¨
Time: 10:30am Presentation Begins. Continues to 12:30 to 1pm (depending upon class questions). Project teams begin after break until the team completes or 9:00 pm MST.
Cost $445 in Person in Class. Maximum of 24 to 36 participants possible depending upon Saturday and Sunday project team availability, on a first come, first served basis. We will survey each participant to determine their Compatibility Factors and day preferences to build the best teams. We organize project teams by Compatibility factors (4 individuals), and whether they are Saturday or Sunday participants. No webinar or class presentations are available outside the class participants. Payment plans available. Call Sandy at (303) 832-3707.
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