People can expand their Attractions by being interested and focused on any area of endeavor. Most individuals work on their Authentic Life Expression, their primary relationships or their community presence. These are each areas of primary growth. Attractions can either stimulate Growth or shut it down. When we look for the same Attractions in people (from relationship to relationship), we minimize Growth. When we seek new Attractions or change Attractions with our partners, we maximize Growth. Growth in Attractions is what helps partners complete lessons, so we evolve. The more interested we are in Life, Light and Love experiences, the more we are willing to commit ourselves to making a difference. This all occurs because of our self-deepening attraction process.
We define our Creative Being, or our Creativity, as making a contribution derived from the focused intention of our Primary Creative Expression. Since everyone has a purpose or unique contribution to make, Attractions guide us to those who would best understand and accept us. The design of Attractions is to concentrate our creative resources to maximize the chances that breakthroughs will occur. By seeing each other on deeper levels, we maximize development by completing lessons so we can become better creative partners. In general, Attractions stimulate growth by: 1) Maximizing the ability for creatively aligned individuals to see each other; 2) To provide opportunities for individuals who cannot see each others to work out their Fears, Desires and Defensive distortions; and 3) To build a more compressive understanding of what it means to be human. The more we are unconscious of Attractions, the more we use them to justify action that will eventually create growth. The more we are conscious of Attractions, the more we will use Attractions to maximize growth.
Unconscious Attractions can be complementary or similar. This means we may have complementary Attractions (Sexy with Smart, Innocence with Strength or Creative Self Acceptance with Personality Self Rejection) or even the same Attractions, based on the relative strength of one Attraction compared to another. For example, if one partner is doing Personal Autonomy and the other wants to do more, the one who wants to do more would be Attracted to the one who is doing more. To stimulate growth we are always gravitating toward greater completion and inner balance. It is important to note that most Attractions are one-way, while relationships need Attractions both ways to keep them fresh. How we create this balance is a critical component. When we are conscious of Attractions we need to initiate new Attractions to replace the ones we complete. Unconsciousness regarding attractions results in relationships going through unexpected shifts where we no longer feel attracted. This means that if either of us do not have the same degree of capacity for engaging certain Attractions, or do not possess the ability to engage greater numbers of Attractions, that we may feel discounted and not seen, ending the relationship. It also means that conditional, unconscious Attractions are transitory and sometime unsustainable depending upon the partners. This then, commonly becomes a comparison game on the Intellectual and Idealized levels and where one partner needs the other more.
The potential of a relationship depends on having alignment or complementary interests where we can learn how to expand together. Alignment emerges from the conscious Attractions of Awareness, Wisdom and Aliveness. All conscious Attractions are non-dualistic and overlap without competition. At this higher level, Aliveness brings out Wisdom and Wisdom is supported by Aliveness. It is difficult to accept our own Aliveness until we affirm Life energy within us. For example, as long as we are in the throes of Excitement or Jealousy, it indicates we are compromised in our Aliveness. The same is also true with Wisdom. Until we can affirm the Light within us by eliminating our Defenses and Intensity, only then can we create a space of wholeness where our knowing can freely emerge. Finally, until we accept our Lovability and consciousness, only then can we truly experience Awareness. Until then, Anxiety and Personality Self Importance are the barriers to accepting ourselves as lovable.
All complementary Attractions are dualistic and can become competitive. Many of us who choose partners with opposite Compatibility Factors can see how holding complementary Attractions expands a partnership in its ability to fulfill its mission. For example, Sexy can compliment Smart, Strength can complement Innocence, Creative Self-Acceptance can complement Personality Self-Rejection (when we eliminate self-imposed limitations). There is nothing challenging in using Complementary Attractions to enhance how we engage each other. All we need to do is accept ourselves and stay conscious in the exchanges.
On a more direct level, the more our partners have the same attractive ownership (same Attractions and Levels), the more likely they will fully embrace us. For example, an individual who manifests more Aliveness would naturally feel more seen by a partner who has the same degree of ownership. When our partners are similar to us we naturally know they will see things the same way, which is the best platform for producing synergy.
On a more direct level, the more our partners have the same attractive ownership (same Attractions and Levels), the more likely they will fully embrace us. For example, an individual who manifests more Aliveness would naturally feel more seen by a partner who has the same degree of ownership. When our partners are similar to us we naturally know they will see things the same way, which is the best platform for producing synergy. This is the second post in a 5 part series on Attractions. Our kinesthetic workshop, Uplifting our Attractions begins February 25th. Class size is limited and the preparatory reading materials will be sent out this Saturday, February 18th. Attractions Intro Discussion; or the Attractions Intro Video or you can register for the class here Uplifting Our Attractions Class
Class is available in person only, but may be taken in itâ€™s completion or as an al-a-carte series. All participants will receive a copy of class materials along with a video and audio recordings of the class.
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