Our motives provide the foundation for how we interact with others. Since how we expect to be treated plays into this exchange, we are always creating stories based on how our motives are met by others. Motives range from being self-serving to heroic. How we see ourselves is negotiated through the process of motives. How others see us is negotiated and interpreted by how we experience their behaviors. The more others defer or adapt to us, the more we believe we are having an impact upon them. The less they pay attention, we go to the extremes of either demanding attention (through outrageous behaviors) or pretending their actions have no impact (by becoming invisible). In both of these situations, their lack of interest in us drives us to build reasons to justify our ongoing interactions with them. Over time, this becomes an aspiration to get attention from others so we can be the hero or heroine in our stories.
A hero or heroine is someone who goes beyond their need for personal comfort and satisfaction to serve a larger common good. Motives are a structured understanding of where we are relative to our own heroic nature. For example, Instinctive Motives are about fighting for survival by paying attention to only what we need. Through Greed, Lust and Arrogance, anti-heroes try to recover what they feel was denied to them as children. On the Intellectual level of Motives, we try to establish a set of qualities that prove we are worthy of investment. Through Personal Dominion, Self-Serving Activity and Personal Acheivement we try to establish boundaries about what we deserve. The pursuit of these activities is about proving to society we have a purpose and are on an heroic path.
On the Idealized Motives level, it is about being acknowledged for contributing to the welfare of others. Through Idealized Trust, Unity and Co-Creation we are initiated into the hall of Wisdom, because we see ourselves as speakers for the repressed or denied segments of humanity. On the Idealized level, we push ourselves to a larger creative connection where we consciously sacrafice personal opportunities for Transpersonal challenges. The only problem, at this level, is we frequently choose the wrong quest or are not able to maintain our commitment through to completion. Intuitive Motives of Universal Dominion, Mutual Accomplishment and Conscious Participation are where we accept our ability to contribute and it is no longer an idealized challenge. This means we become a hero or heroine just by being ourselves. We also become the authors of our own story, because we no longer need to justify our existence.
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Motivesâ€”The Cast Of Characters We Play
Individuals are always locating themselves on the ladder of Motives, even when they do not realize it! Individuals who are conscious about Motives can recognize the motives being used by others in the space of 20-40 seconds. This allows us to choose how and to what degree we wish to participate with someone. Each motive operates from a fear and/or desire. The more we deny ourselves and repress our own creativity, the more we are limited to Instinctive or Intellectual Motives. When individuals operate from Idealized or Intuitive Motives, they possess the capacity to engage and follow through on what they say. This means we can count on them, as they seek to keep their word. Which characteristics do you acknowlege and honor within yourself? To what degree do you follow through and make real your aspirations?
Those who are uplifting their aspirations by choosing to be more inclusive or committed in their heroic quest, can change their self image and script (in part) more easily than those caught in their own entangled or mixed Motives. This reflects that we have taken on certain contrasting motives (either for or against) our parental patterns. It also says that while we can change Motives and thus change our character, we suffer from writerâ€™s block when we do not see a path to a better future. When we accept ourselves as a limited or defensive personality, we tend to think poorly about ourselves because this is what our Motives reflect (back to us). It is not until we stretch ourselves to go beyond habituated conditioning, that we begin to truly define ourselves in a positive way. The more we see the meaning of our Motive patterns, the more we will find an enhanced or generous middle way that serves our Destiny.
Motivesâ€” the primary Intent behind our thoughts, actions and speech.
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Greedâ€” a state of Conditioning where attachment to objects, beauty or handsomeness are more important (for reasons of safety) than the natural experience of abundance.
Arroganceâ€” a state of conditioning where one is over-attached to what one knows, resulting in interactions where we act superior, overbearing or prideful.
Lustâ€” a state of conditioning where we seek temporary indiscriminate sexual connections to minimize the loss of our Self-loving connection to the universe.
Personal Dominionâ€” a state of conditioning where we use our personal environment, relative position or possessions, to command respect and justify our choices over the choices of others.
Personal Achievementâ€” a state of conditioning where we use our track record or rÃ©sumÃ© to demand esteem regarding our thoughts and the ability to manifest results.
Self Serving Activityâ€” a state of conditioning where we use mindless activity to distract ourselves from personal problems (by creating ways to isolate and insulate ourselves from others).
Idealized Trustâ€” a state of conditioning where we externalize a need for trust by relying on the humanity of others in projects that are designed to change the world (internal or external).
Idealized Unityâ€” a state of conditioning where we externalize the need for unity by expecting others to recognize the power of our thoughts and accept them as their truth.
Idealized Co-Creationâ€” a state of conditioning where we externalize the need for Co-Creation by requiring that others defer to our creative approach.
Universal Dominionâ€” a state of being where we create our own internal Safety through conscious creative Presence, allowing Mutual Respect and Autonomy to manifest.
Mutual Accomplishmentâ€” a state of being where we create our own Security through Co-Measured solutions, where Mutual Esteem, Cooperation and thought Unity produce Synergy.
Conscious Participationâ€” a state of being where we create our own Safety and Security by engaging and clearing out fears that prevent effective connection, communication and Co-Measurement with others.
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