Motives are building blocks for character development. When we combine certain motives together, they create and reinforce personality patterns. These can be negative, such as the Seduction archetype, when we combine Lust with Self Serving Activity. Or, they can be positive, such as the commitment to service archetype, where we combine Conscious Participation with Idealized Co-Creation. In both examples, combinations of Motives put in play patterns of behavior that can easily be identified. In this situation, we could play the role of the perfect citizen by combining Self Serving Activity with Idealized Co-Creation. Since each motive either accentuates or minimizes our modalities (Sensations, Feelings, Emotions, Thoughts), the combination of Motives adds subtlety, depth and even irony to our experience as a character. As long as we operate in automatic patterns, there is little change in the structure of how we experience people. When we become conscious, we reset these automatic patterns and switch off Unconscious (Instinctive, Intellectual, and Idealized) Motives. This is because they no longer add direct value to our relationships. Their only value at this point is in understanding others who have not made this transition.
It is the predominance of Motives on Instinctive, Intellectual and Idealized levels that provide the angst and conflict our Conditioning reveals to us. When we operate in mixed motives and cross these boundaries, it produces even more confusion. This shows up as a hesitation while we try to figure out what our overall motives are telling us in the moment. The less Motives we have in play, the stronger and clearer our intentions are with others. We also experience alignment around Feminine Motives vs. Masculine Motives. For example, an individual with Arrogance, Personal Acheivement and Idealized Unity would be a know-it-all masculine archetype, while Greed, Personal Dominion and Idealized Trust would represent a feminine â€˜coynessâ€™ archetype. It is important to recognize that we can operate in motives that do not reflect our gender identity. For example, a man may do coyness, or a woman might do a know-it-all archetype. We are all equal opportunity Motive users!
The Combined Motives category (consisting of Lust, Self Serving Activity, Idealized Co-Creation and Conscious Participation) are the result of the unification of the masculine feminine elements at one level. This means we need to be doing Greed and Arrogance to fully embrace Lust. Each of the combined Motives is a stepping stone to the next higher level of Motive expression. This is how we move from Instinctive to Intellectual to Idealized then the Intuitive level. It is fairly easy to uplift our Motives by moving up the ladder in any of the three categories. For example, on the feminine Motives level, we grow naturallly from Greed to Personal Dominion to Idealized Trust then into Universal Dominion. On the masculine side, we grow from Arrogance to Personal Acheivement to Idealized Unity and then Mutual Accomplishment. Finally, on the combined level, we naturally grow from Lust to Self Serving Activity to Idealized Co-Creation and Conscious Participation.
Using Ken Wilberâ€™s Holons to describe this natural growth progression, we need to complete the base lessons before we can move into the higher Motives. This is because we need to experience the negative aspects of lower Motives so we become comfortable choosing higher Motives. From Wilberâ€™s point of view, there are elemental perceptions, values and choices that need to be experienced before we are willing to move into greater complexity. At each level of Motive, we become more conscious and experience a greater range of possibilities. We otherwise would have no structure to explore the larger domains without having the basic experiences that define our choices. This is also true in the characterizations we develop as personalities. Using the lower three tiers of Motives, we can come up with some intricate ways of relating to others. Ultimately, on the Intuitive level, our choices become less important in comparison to taking ownership of our Creative Nature. When we reach this level we experience ourselves as the author of our life choices and can therefore respond in any way we deem important.
Motivesâ€”The Cast Of Characters We Play
Instinctive Motives explore interactions where we do not have to be conscious or know what is going on. Any characters where we check out or over-do our Sensations or Feelings are related to Instinctive Motives in some way. Paradoxically, when we confront the fact that others are not acting in our interest, we become locked into â€˜whyâ€™ are they holding back. It does not occur to us that we are the ones holding back. Instead, we go into unconscious merging and use guilt to manipulate our partners. Examples on this level are Victims, Actors (pretenders). Players and Role Players
Intellectual Motives explore interactions where we seek to measure our value in relation to society. In order to justify what we consume, we over-emphasize how we contribute. We tend to over-do our Thoughts and under-do our Emotions (or vice versa). Paradoxically, we seek independence when really, we need more Intimacy. We get locked into answering the questions about â€˜whatâ€™ we do to prove we are unique or different. This subjectifies us in terms of our society, and we find the lack of freedom to be disconcerting. We find ourselves blaming others, when doing Intellectual Motives, because there is always a right and wrong way. Examples of this level are Stubborn Persecutors, Name Droppers, Performers and Collectors
Idealized Motives are where we elevate others (who we think are doing what we want) so we do not have to be responsible for actually doing the work ourselves. The core issue is how we build a false sense of Self Importance or project our discomfort upon others. Confusion arises in the separation of our body and mind. When we cannot see the wholeness of a situation, we are trapped by the partial perspectives we do see. A simplified version of this is seeing potential in others without accepting the other aspects we do not like. When we feel we need to blame someone, Idealized Motives help us to accomplish this. Examples on this level are Social Activists, Dreamers and Dramatic Emoters.
Intuitive Motives operate with presence, balance and creative Self understanding. There is no value in building characterizations if we can naturally act in the moment without doubt and compromise. We not only invite others to participate, we hold space for them so they can step fully into a possibility. This particularly helps those who have come to recognize their Motives and no longer want to be trapped in their Conditioning. The question becomes about â€˜whoâ€™ shows up and what their intentions are. Intuitive Motives represent 100% participation in the process. No one can hold back, or it becomes idealized to some degree. The cast of characters we can play are leaders that express Inspiration, Action, Possibilities or Knowing. They make no aplogies and humbly recognize their gifts.
Motivesâ€” the primary Intent behind our thoughts, actions and speech.
Greedâ€” a state of Conditioning where attachment to objects, beauty or handsomeness are more important (for reasons of safety) than the natural experience of abundance. The prevailing fear is not having enough; Scarcity. We tend to overdo Feelings and underdo Sensations.
Arroganceâ€” a state of conditioning where one is over-attached to what one knows, resulting in interactions where we act superior, overbearing or prideful. The prevailing fear is that we do not know enough to be engaged or are insubstantial. We tend to overdo Sensations and underdo Feelings.
Lustâ€” a state of conditioning where we seek temporary indiscriminate sexual connections to minimize the loss of our Self-loving connection to the universe. The prevailing fear is not being someone who others would find attractive; Rejection. We tend to underdo both Sensations and Feelings (creating Excitement) although we yearn for more connection.
Personal Dominionâ€” a state of conditioning where we use our personal environment, relative position or possessions, to command respect and justify our choices over the choices of others. The prevailing fear is that others do not respect us or will not take us into consideration. We tend to overdo Emotions and underdo Thoughts. When in a crisis, we overdo Feelings and underdo Sensations.
Personal Achievementâ€” a state of conditioning where we use our track record or rÃ©sumÃ© to demand esteem regarding our thoughts and the ability to manifest results. We tend to overdo Thoughts and underdo Emotions. When in a crisis, we underdo Feelings and overdo Sensations, which makes us antsy.
Self Serving Activityâ€” a state of conditioning where we use mindless activity to distract ourselves from personal problems (by creating ways to isolate and insulate ourselves from others). The prevailing fear is there will be endless compromise and we will need to define ourselves forever in terms of others. We seek to relax, but what we get is Intensity, as we are conflicted between honoring our Emotions and Thoughts. When stressed out, we get into action (mostly Sensations) and try to forget our Feelings.
Idealized Trustâ€” a state of conditioning where we externalize a need for trust by relying on the humanity of others in projects that are designed to change the world (internal or external). The prevailing fear is we will not make a difference or be appreciated. This leads us to give away our power to others, falsely believing they will live up to our higher expectations. While we emphasize our Feelings, we keep falling into doubt, which ends up denying or sabotaging our own Intentions. When we feel in conflict, we automatically cut off our Emotions.
Idealized Unityâ€” a state of conditioning where we externalize the need for unity by expecting others to recognize the power of our thoughts and accept them as their truth. The prevailing fear is our ideas will be perceived as incorrect or not big enough. This occurs after we have found some success but are concerned we cannot keep it up. We are usually overdoing our feminine emotions and are cut off from our body awareness. This produces a state called â€˜head-trippingâ€™ where we cannot stop thinking.
Idealized Co-Creationâ€” a state of conditioning where we externalize the need for Co-Creation by requiring that others defer to our creative approach. The fear is all our work will not matter, because embodiment is everything. Many times we want to do things, but do not have enough time to do it all. Prioritization is required, particularly when we vacillate between the Anxiety of our body and mind perspectives. We can see this in the sharp differences between our Feelings and Emotions.
Universal Dominionâ€” a state of being where we create our own internal Safety through conscious creative Presence, allowing Mutual Respect and Autonomy to manifest. Spacious Presence supports our ability to tell our Truth harmlessly in a way others can hear. The key issue is we embody our energy and can mobilize it to take care of any Safety issue. Manifesting our safety (at least in our physical proximity) is key to having a relationship with the Universe.
Mutual Accomplishmentâ€” a state of being where we create our own Security through Co-Measured solutions, where Mutual Esteem, Cooperation and thought Unity produce Synergy. Pregnant Duration, conceptually, alters our experience of time so we are able to process possibilities and create solutions fluidly. Being able to connect with others in their Truth is what creates a sense of Security within us. Mutual Accomplishment provides a feedback loop, where the truth can effortlessly be uncovered and revealed.
Conscious Participationâ€” a state of being where we create our own Safety and Security by engaging and clearing out fears that prevent effective connection, communication and Co-Measurement with others. Skillful Means is the way we learn to creatively interact, so whatever we do is easier as we become more conscious. With Conscious Participation, we learn that showing up is 80% of the game. This allows the unknown 20% to surprise us.
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