Many of us falsely believe that Seduction is cute and innocent. If done from a playful place, without being serious, it could be.
Unfortunately, when it becomes a way to prove we are superior, it is no longer innocent, fun nor appropriate. Seduction destroys Self Esteem and Self Respect and makes it hard to love who we are. Seducers are insecure and play games to make themselves feel better by making their partners feel worse. They do this this by sewing doubt and confusion about their partner's choices. This encourages the partner to listen to the Seducer and follow their guidance.
Seducers treat others with a balance of flattery and negative feedback, to covertly manipulate the outcome they desire. They set up false issues in their partners by pretending they are protecting and supporting the partner by keeping them from doing something. Actually, they are undermining a person's self confidence to increase their own self importance. They want their partner to be completely dependent upon them. Only when they are fully in charge do they feel their power and influence is made real.
One of the biggest joys for Seducers is to crush hope in their partners. They want the partner to think things are getting better, only to have it all fall apart. Seducers feel vindicated when their history and what happened to them is being shared and experienced by others.
Seducers target individuals with high Expectations. The more certain a target is about their own reality, the more enjoyment a Seducer experiences in derailing them. Female Seducers tend to emphasize Control as a Pretense, and even place themselves in dangerous situations in order to challenge themselves to get what they want. Seductive men tend to overemphasize the Romantic Mythology Pretense, where they always act like they did not mean the insults they make, pretending to be comical or fun-loving in their own way. These excuses become thin when the pattern is repeated.
Seducers also tend to use their strengths, appearance, cleverness and ability to read the desire of others to make promises to partners they never intend to keep. They are much more superficial and self-serving, some would say even narcissistic, to ever work for the benefit of a relationship. When we learn to see Seducers, it is easy to send them packing by being strong in our self perceptions and not letting them talk us out of our truth or experience. We can suggest we are not interested in their interpretations of our truth, because we know what is true for us.