Second Cause Of Co-Dependence
When we bring together Associative, Deductive and Abstract Thinking, it helps us to create Context, so we can think holistically. This is called Unity Thinking. It is the opposite of judgment, which limits the expression of Truth. Judgment relates to Contraction, where we see only a part of a situation. It is a fundamental element in our Defensive Identity. We would not make assumptions about how we are like others, or react when we are not like them, without judgments. With judgments, we increase comparisons to others and reduce our ability to see similarities. In a misguided effort, some of us believe that judgments provide opportunities to see things in an elemental way. In the Higher Alignment perspective, this kind of deconstruction kills the Truth.
Since Truth is inclusive and relates to all that is, Unity Thinking is a key quality in building a creative way to connect with others. When we judge, in our minds, we cut off this connection, which automatically increases fears about not being right. Instead of judging experiences, let us see the larger connections that make our lives magnificent, beautiful and true. This means using Paradox to see all alternative views. Paradox allows us to engage contrary views so all issues and trade-offs can be considered. Engaging Paradox means honoring our completeness by seeing the wholeness of our options. This allows us to develop Intuitive Discrimination, where we explore choices until a clear, best choice emerges. This requires not judging others or ourselves. Unity Thinking reduces co-dependency. When we operate with a larger internal vision, we compare less and do not engage superficial options.
We do not experience Unity Thinking because we do not know how to bridge different aspects of our thought processes. We see examples of this when we overdo Associate Thinking and end up making objects of others and ourselves. When this occurs, we get caught up in appearances (what looks right) and Excitement, which distracts us from recognizing the lack of creative connection we have with our partner. Instead, the relationship needs more stimulation to keep it moving forward, because it naturally operates with greater inertia.
Or we fixate on logical Deductive Thinking, believing only we have the answers (subjectifying others with our certainty). When this occurs, we select partners who understand us and who will be committed to fulfilling our needs. The key driving aspect of this is a mutual need for Security. Abstract Thinking can also be overdone when we become dreamers who rIdealize things so the practical aspects are lost. Abstract thinking provides more focus on the big-picture creative opportunities, but needs to be grounded in a practical ability to work together. Until we can bring together Associate, Deductive and Abstract Thinking, we do not pay attention to the full picture. It takes balancing the three so they are not under or over-done (builds Unity Thinking). We can see these imbalances when we experience Jealousy, Sarcasm, Doubt, Envy and the Fear of being ostracized. This is because each area becomes either overly fixated or we develop diversion tactics that counterbalance our weaknesses.
When we get fragmented (in this way) we need to remind ourselves about our wholeness. One of the best processes for coming back into connection with our Self is the 4-step Unity Thinking process. We start by acknowledging the energy at the base of our spine. We imagine creating a circle of energy that passes through our body (from the back of the spine) and into our brow (above the eyes), then through our head, cycling back down to the base of our spine. Seeing the red Life energy moving through the process for seven cycles establishes a balance in our ability to be present with ourselves. We enhance the process by bringing our body Sensations and Feelings into balance. This will cure any loneliness and sense of isolation.
The second step is in the heart. We bring a green energy out of our backs and bring it through our solar plexus and back up to the heart. This allows us to develop a sense of balance and power between our higher and lower systems. We cycle this energy seven times, imagining it getting stronger and linking together to build more creative Power. We enhance this process by bringing our Emotions and Thoughts into unity. This can remedy a need to be right or imposing ourselves on others.
The third step is where we connect with our sacral center and sexual organs. We imagine bringing this energy up into our throats, using either magenta or purple light. The light goes through our throat center and cycles back down into our sacral center. When we run this sequence seven times, it helps us connect our lower and higher creative centers. This supports us in expressing our Passion and recognizing the power of our own Love. This process is enhanced when we align our Feelings and Emotions to establish Body-Mind Unity. This enhances our ability to be present in the moment so we are not impatient or rushing through life.
The fourth step is about checking in with each of the three levels (and circles) and helping to bring the whole body into alignment by operating six inches above the head, with white light radiating down into our bodies. Imagine a pulse of white energy coming down into the system and being absorbed by whichever Life, Light or Love aspect needs it. Use this light to stimulate and balance the three lower circles. We want alignment and balance between each energy system. Do this for a count of seven. This helps to establish an energetic connection to the universe and to minimize defensiveness. Make sure all the energetic debris of the cleansing process is directed down into the Earth.
Some people resist Unity Thinking because they believe they need a position or point of view. This is a remnant of their Defensive Identity, where the personality is in charge. When we connect to our Creative Self, points of view are not necessary. What is useful is to be able to see possibilities. The less defensive we are, the more obvious these possibilities become. Once we practice affirming our wholeness, loving our Creative Nature, many of the judgments disappear. Our thinking becomes more fluid and flowing. Our consciousness opens up and we see ways to bring together the Thoughts that were initially not clear to us. This is the practice that keeps us unified and present in our Being. It prevents Co-Dependence, because we are not identifying with our Fears or Personality Desires.