Second Level Motives (such as Personal Dominion, Self Serving Activity, Personal Achievement) manifest as the need to prove ourselves capable and deserving. They are two dimensional, dualistic polarities based upon either this (objective reality) or that (subjective reality). It creates a structure where outer success can be demonstrated. What we are missing is a real connection to people and humanity. We grow beyond this level by acknowledging and owning our desires. We learn to balance our emotions and thoughts so we can be Wise and non-defensive with others. This reduces our insulation and competitiveness so we can invoke our Creative Power (where we turn problems into solutions). We acknowledge that our Truth is different from others and are Transformed by the ownership that occurs. Harmless communication becomes the grease that allows us to work together without compromise or Co-Dependence. We learn how to be secure without needing a partner to support us. This frees us from reacting to the structure of Intellectual Motives.
On the Intellectual level we get caught up comparing the ideas we have of our self with the ideas others have of themselves so we can improve our leverage over them. These comparisons reflect how we either want to â€˜seduceâ€™ or â€˜subjectifyâ€™ others so they meet us the way we want to be met. As these motives reflect a step above the victim mentality of the Instinctive level, we seek to differentiate ourselves by having others define themselves in terms of us. As long as others need us more than we need them we feel secure. On the feminine polarity, we use possessions as a way to demand respect so that others conform to our wishes (Personal Dominion), or we use the masculine polarity to assert a proven track record so others will let us implement our own ideas without impediments (Personal Achievement). We use both the masculine and feminine when we lose ourselves in personal activities where events are defined the way we want (Self-Serving Activity). We operate on the intellectual level as long as we believe that competition is the way of the world and that we must prove ourselves superior to get what we want.
When we operate in a motive of Personal Dominion, we elevate our personality needs (self entitlement), which minimizes our ability to see the compromise and pain of others attempting to meet us. When we operate in a motive of Personal Achievement, we typically put our ideas first (proving we are right) and are unable to consider or incorporate ideas or suggestions from others. Operating from a mode of Self-Serving Activity, we become trapped in superficial caretaking of others because we put our needs first and are unable to see the needs of others up front. Self Serving Activity comes into play when we use activities (sports, shopping, movies, and books) to impose our priorities upon others because we want to feel more powerful. We use different activities to intermediate and organize pecking orders and establish our prerogatives.
The cost of intellectual positions, where we take care of ourselves at the cost of others, means we lose mutual understanding. Motives cement us into fixed positions that we use to justify our superior suggestions and ignore the poor way we interact with others. Name dropping, social status hierarchies and holding out material awards for personal conformance to otherâ€™s standards are examples of intellectual positioning. Attempts to deny that someone is making an impact on us actually create the reality that they make a much larger impact. The more we deny this, the less we accomplish overall. This keeps us from accepting our own Creative Power when we deny the Creative Power of others. What we need is to trust the attraction of Vibratory Response, so our positive and negative poles align (eliminating sabotage).
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