Love As Universal Consciousness
We can only be radiant if we are balanced. This means we need to accept both our masculine and feminine sides. It also means we have as much respect for ourselves as esteem. Any imbalances place us at the effect of others. This is why we experience falling in love. The falling indicates an imbalance where we need our partner to prop us up. Any imbalance indicates we are susceptible to Co-Dependence. When unbalanced, our defenses become the difference that makes us fall in love with our partner. This means we are not falling in love with who they are, but with their defense, which we believe will save us. The more unbalanced we are, the more our Opposite Attractions show up. This is because both partners are seeking greater balance, even if it is an inappropriate externalization that sets us up for separative pain. We become enmeshed or disaffiliated with partners who are out of balance in the opposite way. These forms of personality love are compensatory and built on a false foundation that has no ability to radiate. The real issue is that to radiate and operate in a state of power, we need to accept our full creative nature.
When we choose love, it frees us from being caught by love. The experience of Love is uplifting when it is a gift to others. If we are fixating on being loved, we are out of balance and caught in Defenses and Co-Dependence. Radiant Love arises from our Creative Nature and is abundant and whole. Personality love operates through Defenses and positioning and shows up as Fear, Desire and scarcity. When love is about acquisition, it is based on personality issues. When love is about giving, it reflects we are loving ourselves first, so we actually give love without becoming lost in it. If we are identified by our personality positions, we always feel we are not enough. This is why we seek out others who will confirm we are wanted, adequate and lovable. When we manifest our own Safety, Security and Self Importance, we can love ourselves and love others without needing to be validated in return.
We create Radiant Love within ourselves by acknowledging our Creative Nature and releasing our sense of personality identity. While this is a process, we shift from a defensive mode of seeing ourselves as Attachments, Positions and Projections, to being fully validated from within. This keeps us from further compromising ourselves and we find better ways to affirm our masculine sense of becoming with our feminine sense of being. The more we promote our Aliveness and sense of adventure, the more self esteem we build. The more we promote our Wisdom and sense of possibilities, in terms of listening and learning, the more our self respect grows. When the two come together and operate at the same level, it creates an opening for greater Self love. This is because we are no longer pursuing love, but being Love from the inside out.
The four ways we deepen and refine our experience of love are inner states that anchor the experiences of both Being and Becoming love in our life. We identify these anchors as Stillness, Open Discovery, Silence and Creative Flow. The anchors reflect gifts of the Inventors, Investigators, Visionaries and Storytellers, respectively. Embodying Stillness comes out of being present simultaneously to our Sensations and Feelings, so we experience Beauty and are able to express it in the world. Anchoring Open Discovery comes by simultaneously embracing Emotions and Thoughts, so we are able to create and validate our experience of Truth in a way that does not have to be proven to others. Embracing Silence permits us to simultaneously reflect upon our Feelings and Emotions, so our motivations are clear to us and we can operate in alignment with our natural Goodness when serving others. Focusing on Creative Flow enables us to unify Stillness, Open Discovery and Silence in a way that embodies inner harmlessness, so a natural state of goodwill is expressed in the world. Any time we wish to deepen and enhance the experience of love, the answer is always within us and is about how we develop a relationship with ourselves. Loving all of who we are lets us love others wherever and however they choose to express themselves.
Completing Our Love
We embody Love by the choices we make. In any situation where we go beyond our personality perspective (ignoring our personal safety and security needs), we demonstrate Radiant Self-Unifying Love. Many individuals call going beyond our personality reality framework, â€˜being in Service to othersâ€™. From HAâ€™s perspective, it is simply acknowledging the larger reality around us. The fundamental lie of our personality is that we are separate from the Universe. As long as we hang on to heroic personality self images we continue to attract the challenges that serve (only) our Projections, Positions and Attachments. When we shift into our creative Self Knowing we neutralize our personality baggage and can fully show up. Our life becomes one where we live in our own dimension and are not distracted by comparisons to others. This is the path of service and Radiant Self Unifying Love. Service is an opportunity to operate from our creative being and acknowledge the people and opportunities around us to connect. This is why Radiant Self-Unifying Love always connects the inner with the outer and is centered around inclusiveness rather than the exclusivity of our personality.
When we operate from our Creative Self, we can see what is needed around us because we are no longer fixated on our own safety and security needs. Love not only helps us perceive life from the perspective of others, it also has the primary unifying effect of bringing people together in community. Every time we choose what we consider a â€˜higher goodâ€™, it reinforces our capacity to contribute. Rather than seeing this in a one-dimensional framework, where we lose ourselves in taking care of others, it is important to acknowledge that we find and recreate ourselves in Service to others. The inner dimension of Love (we come to know) is that our relationship with others mirrors our relationship with ourselves. The way we manifest integrity is by completing this cycle by seeing that our giving (to others) is in fact, a gift to ourselves. Until we fully experience this cycle, our personality is typically resistant to this kind of expression.
There are three ways we transcend our personality fears and desires to be of Service: Personality Surrender, Sacrifice and Suffering. While we may not realize we have a choice (particularly with suffering) how we interpret our experience is a choice. Self Aware individuals choose to see opportunities for personal growth and development where others get lost and are victimized by life. The primary difference between a conscious or unconscious approach to life is whether we use the perceptions of others as a guide for interpreting our reality (or we acknowledge that we create our own experience). Another indication is the degree to which we take responsibility for our choices and do not complain (to garner sympathy). Conscious individuals do not need validation from others to be complete in their own experience. In each (Personality Surrender, Sacrifice and Suffering) there is a demonstration of Transpersonal Love that supersedes personal needs. Each is an opportunity to internally shift and release our Personality Projections, Positions and Attachments. We expand our experience of love when we see that these personality judgments actually interfere with our ability to be in the experience of Love. Surrender, Sacrifice and Suffering help us to regain the wholeness of our Self-Loving, human perspective. When we do not have to confirm our love on a personality level, we can be love.
Surrender (Personality Self Importance)
Surrender is the highest form of personality completion where we let go of all Projections about who we are (in terms of others) and who they are (in terms of us). Through Personality Surrender, we establish ever affirming creative connections with others (that are not based on the past or future). Through the Conscious Sacrifice of our Personality Positions, we release ourselves from the torment of reactive and co-dependent interactions. This demonstration of Radiant Self-Unifying Love allows us to find our common truth so we can create mutual learning opportunities. If we cannot let go of our positions, we cannot be intimate and transformed by our self-presence along with the presence of others. Finally, we sometimes need to do things the hard way.
By railing against our circumstances, we can use Suffering to complete (burn out) our inappropriate Personality Attachments. Through Suffering we learn about what is real and what is not by whether it reinforces our personality fears and desires. By now, we can start to see that whatever our personality confirms is only a half-truth and never the whole truth. This is why personality perceptions (defenses) need constant reinforcement. The more we consciously engage Suffering to work through and release our personality limitations, the less we will be defined by what we think we need. Suffering, in effect, is the way we learn to become inclusive and whole with our perceptions of reality. Until we reach a place where we do not resist suffering, but embrace it as a part of life, we are unconsciously amplifying it through expressing conditional forms of love.
We learn to trust our higher creative nature when we surrender our personality demands. This does not mean suppressing or repressing needs, but that we listen to our personality and recognize it is just one point of view in a larger community. This opportunity to participate more transpersonally is also facilitated by questioning how we define ourselves in terms of others. Some of us are attached to projections of Goodness, Truth or Beauty and unconsciously demand to be appreciated for doing so. These personality perspectives come from fear and previously repressed desires, which lock us into inappropriate or disconnected actions. As long as we hold on to false beliefs about who we are, we prevent new perceptions from expanding our viewpoint.
Learning how to surrender our Personality Projections (reflecting how we create a false sense of safety and security) offers the opportunity to be free of the baggage (limiting beliefs) we carry around. Since every projection on someone is a displacement of our own fears (on them), we can then idealize ourselves. This false notion of who we are separates us from others and keeps us from affirming our mutual creative connection. What if we could just surrender our personality need for prestige? Who would we be without our prestige? I invite you to create the possibility that you would be a much more creative, vibrant and alive being. I also would like you to consider how surrendering the personality allows it to become a true servant to your creative expression. Until this occurs, our personality cannot hold a love of Self with integrity.
Sacrifice (Healing Fixed Positions)
The second way we demonstrate our ability to love our Self is through Conscious Sacrifice. Conscious Sacrifice is the ability to let go of an internal position or need so a larger creative quality (opportunity) can be embodied. We learn to let go of the need to prove our self-importance, to sacrifice our desire to have power over others or using our prestige to negate othersâ€™ choices. Most of us are familiar with unconscious sacrifice, where the personality pays attention to others and gives of itself in order to get something in return. Three forms of conditional love (Protective, Directive and Quid Pro Quo) are all attempts to demonstrate that we care for others by doing things for them. When we become conscious of the power of Sacrificial Love, it becomes an internal (not external) structure. Conscious Sacrifice is an inner framework that sublimates something lower in order to bring about something higher. It is a commitment to serve the larger world beyond us. Unconscious Sacrifice is driven by an internal need to be seen and appreciated for what we do for others so we can then leverage what they give us in return.
Unconscious sacrifice is an attempt to gain power over others. Conscious Sacrifice is a commitment to be powerful with others. As long as we use personality structures to compare and contrast our relative strength to others, we are trapped in unconscious sacrifice. How much do you believe that Love is effort and not Creative Alignment? To the degree you are not ready to love, you will retreat to the limitations of selfishness as a measure of your love for others. From this perspective, where you invest time and make an effort indicates the degree you love someone. When you shift from a personality perspective of love (where effort and selfishness reign) to the presence of your Creative Self (where you transcend positions and grow with your partners) depends upon how you mobilize and reorient yourself to using Sacrifice to regain your wholeness of purpose. Who would you be without Personality Positions and power struggles? Could you let this go so your creative nature could more fully emerge? To what degree are you willing to stop arguing for your limitations and accept the creative opportunity to manifest your contributions without attachments to how they will be received?
Suffering (Healing Our Attachments)
Suffering is the result of being attached to things that do not serve us. It is important to recognize how Suffering contributes to our lives. Suffering helps us recognize what does and does not work due to personality attachments. The more we are caught up in attachments, the more inertia we experience and the less conscious action we take. Our internal design is to suffer to the degree we are attached to our external form. All pain and suffering is an indication we are not completely in alignment with ourselves. The more we are possessed and consumed by our Sensations, Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts, the less conscious we are. Our evolutionary process encourages the release of attachments so we can develop a conscious observer separate from our outer form. Through this, we gain the capacity to see the effect of our choices.
Every attachment creates a distortion in the perception of our Truth. Attachments are kinks in our consciousness where we cannot be ourselves. Suffering brings attention to these kinks so they can be released. We may have attachments around incompletion of Sensations and Feelings, Feelings and Emotions and Emotions and Thoughts. Suffering directs us to become more conscious of our attachments so we can learn to be present to our full experience. As long as we deny our creative nature, attachments drive us into pre-programmed personality activities without self-reflection. This inhibits the full expression of our Aliveness, Wisdom and Self-Awareness. As we develop greater faculty to reflect upon ourselves, we see that being present with our Suffering creates internal space to see our own survival mechanisms.
The more we consciously own our Suffering and even let ourselves enjoy the reality that Suffering speeds us on our path, the more conscious we become. When we are in a state of Radiant Self-Unifying Love, suffering is not only a confirmation of the quality of our Love, but a way to make sense of the world. Suffering, like pain, focuses our attention where it is needed. In this context, our capacity to consciously engage Suffering for the ongoing growth and prosperity for those we love, is a way of giving that ultimately supports and completes the circle. Suffering allows us to deepen into who we are; insights occur that lead us out of our limiting attachments. Being able to Suffer is a true indication of our growth and conscious maturity. We realize that one of the best ways to contribute is to release ourselves from our own attachments so we can truly be present to othersâ€™ attachments. When we release attachments, we transmute them into their full natural expression.
Radiant Self-Unifying Love is a gift of our nature that assists us in dealing with the challenges of life. Through Surrender, Sacrifice and Suffering we acknowledge our personality distortions so we can complete our love on a personality level. Without the grace and blessings of Radiant Self-Unifying Love, who would possess the strength to embrace the world as it is? The key is to accept, develop and actualize our creative nature. Every step where we Surrender, Sacrifice and/or Suffer for a greater good, teaches us more about our true nature. Every situation either uplifts or denies who we are. When we appreciate the Beauty, Truth and Goodness of who we are, we naturally choose to demonstrate our love. Radiant Self-Unifying Love allows us to connect with others and be transformed by the experience. This occurs only to the degree we can surrender our personality perceptions, engage conscious sacrifice and transmute our suffering into creative development. We invite you to test the quality of your Being through the ability to complete your personality perceptions (so you do not limit the full expression of your love). This is how we can fully engage not only who we are, but also who we are becoming in relationship to others.