When we deny our Attractions by default we open ourselves up to anyone who is interested. This is because we are not resonating or conveying our sense of Creative Power about who we are or what we want. Many people deny their Attractions because they have been criticized, made wrong or are now afraid to put themselves out in the world. They do not see their Beauty, they deny their Truth and they cannot imagine that other people can see their Goodness.
This is an indication they have not yet developed themselves as a Creative Being. The more we hold back our Attractions, the less we attract the support of the Universe. We end up, by default, taking on the problems of others because we do not think we are worthy. This pushes us into proving ourselves in selective ways, such as needing to be Sexy, Smart or Reliable on the Instinctive level. The problem is that our partners become highly attached to their image of both of us being this way, to the exclusion of everything else.
On the Intellectual level we focus on proving how Strong, Innocent or independent (Personal Autonomy) we are. We try to do this intellectually by structuring our Thinking (or actually believing) that we are the best at what we do. In this way, we become overly positioned and our identity becomes intellectually framed. We justify our performance(s). We see ourselves as Security-driven, because everything has a risk-reward ratio. While we are afraid to make mistakes, we are also afraid of not doing anything and being considered a nobody by others. We do not want to be seen as too Idealistic as it seems too airy-fairy and intangible.
On the Idealistic level we try to show others how good we could be for them by demonstrating how much they need us. We do this by trying to see and understand them. They become bonded to us because we are able to get them in a way they do not get themselves. This is mostly because we have a greater sense of perspective on our partners and can effectively mirror them. While this produces more feedback, it also invites Co-Dependence when we do not take responsibility for our own growth.
These are conditional forms of expression, where, if others agree to see us the way we see ourselves, they can be with us. Otherwise, we distance ourselves because we are afraid we will be hurt or rejected. Attractions therefore, when compromised, reflect low Self-Respect (Instinctive Level), Self-Esteem (Intellectual Level) and Self-Love (Idealized Level). We summarize the lessons on the Instinctive Level as getting caught up in Acting, Performing on the Intellectual Level and Dreaming on the Idealized Level. We are not Co-Creators until we reach the conscious Attractions on the Intuitive Level.
This is the third post in a 5 part series on Attractions. Our kinesthetic workshop, Uplifting our Attractions begins February 25th. Class size is limited and the preparatory reading materials will be sent out this Saturday, February 18th. Attractions Intro Discussion; or the Attractions Intro Video or you can register for the class here Uplifting Our Attractions Class
Class is available in person only, but may be taken in itâ€™s completion or as an al-a-carte series. All participants will receive a copy of class materials along with a video and audio recordings of the class.
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