Motives mostly trap us in past activities. Re-directing our attention toward Motives expands Aliveness by empowering Life choices that build better relationships. Fears and Frustrated Desires distort our actions and minimize our Motives. Let us open creative possibilities so we can fully express ourselves.
Motives provide a channel to act in alignment with or oppose others. When we act in alignment, we consciously trust our relationship, which minimizes the activation of Fears, Desires, Doubts and Inertia. Our relationships feel easier and we flow together. When we oppose others we become insecure, stubborn and irritated by the actions of our partners. Many individuals do not realize they can discuss their Motive patterns with their partners. When we do, it offers a way to minimize some of the defensive differences that can upset a relationship. Motives are also helpful in revealing patterns of Co-Dependence, because many of us expect our partners to counterbalance us. A great example of this is when we create arguments because we are uncomfortable affirming our partners or ourselves. For a full introductory discussion about Motives, click here.
We provide informed support to those who seek more traction and power in their relationships. HA clarifies which relationships will work vs. those that do not. When our relationshps do not work well, we spend more time and energy without decreasing the pain. Learn how to increase your Pleasure and Passion by choosing partners who are more aligned to your Creative Nature.
Higher Alignment has pioneered a set of tools for understanding and accepting uncomfortable similarities and differences. We use these assessment tools to identify 15 Compatibility Factors, 12 Motives, 12 Attractions and 12 Relationship Skills. This framework, when we include Common Neutral Ground, teaches us how to expand our capacity to relate to others in a harmonious and peaceful manner. It is the mission of Higher Alignment to experience our essential nature and nurture conscious relationships. The Improving Our Relationships course is particularly relevant and designed for newcomers to Higher Alignment.